By the way, I do think Justin would make a fantastic looking girl with that shockingly young face of his. Heck, he almost looks like one without even trying.

Casual Encounters – I’ve also posted on the Craigslist Casual Encounters page a few times, looking for guys or CDs who are into bondage and kidnapping fantasies, but again have had no luck at all. Really it’s best to do bondage with friends and people you know, and I’ve had lots of fun with my friends and people I’ve known at the clubs, especially at Club Fantasy. And as for women, they tend not to do the casual get together thing as much as guys, so most of the women I’ve tied up have been at BDSM clubs or at parties. Of course, with women there’s the whole other question of emotional involvement, possible relationships, and my nagging anxiety, which have been the subject of many other blog posts

The itch, though, to meet someone new, usually a guy, and do some edgier play never really goes away. The funny thing is, though, that I’ve never met any real prospects on Craigslist, usually just lots of guys who want to get a blowjob. I’ve met with a couple guys through other avenues over the years and have done some mild kidnapping type role-play, and I’ve always checked them out as much as possible beforehand and taken precautions and let them know that I was going to let other friends know where I was. And I’ve been lucky and have never had any bad experiences. Really, I would say almost everyone I’ve met over the years who’s into this stuff has been pretty cool. But finding that really good match, as most everyone who reads this blog knows, is really tough. There are tons of guys who say they’re into bondage, and they might be, but they’re usually looking way more for a sexual hookup than I am. So the half-assed search and late nights of occasional after-the-party frustration continue.

I’ve talked about this before, and the one guy whom I had some of the best bondage scenes with was the guy named Ringgag, who’s sadly no longer with us. And the thing that made it really work, and this is something that you’re not supposed to admit or participate in if you’re doing things “the right way,” was that I did feel a small hint of real danger the couple times that I saw him. I never completely knew his full story (and it turned out later that he was living something of a double life). But the element of danger and the feeling that I might just get in over my head did add an excitement to it. I knew that he had played with many other people before me, and I even chatted with some of them online (if in fact it was really them and not him posing as them, which is quite possible), but still there was always that little question mark in the back of my mind, which really worked.