I went out the other evening, just in boy mode, to one of the local “munches” – where a bunch of kinky people get together in a restaurant for dinner. It’s all very non-kinky and a good way to meet people in a very low pressure environment. I actually met my last two girlfriends at munches, not that I go out trolling, but you never know who you might meet. Of course, most of the time it’s some chit chat and a meal and that’s it, which is fine too. Well, it was definitely one of the latter kinds of evenings but I’m trying to take my own advice and go out to events, whether I enjoy them or not, as eventually if you do it enough you start to make contacts. Sometimes it feels like I make contacts in spite of myself, as I can be pretty shy and tongue tied when I first meet people.
One discouraging thing about the BDSM scene in general, I’ve found – and this is in any city, not just Denver – is that people who are into damsel in distress style bondage are a very tiny minority, and then being a crossdresser makes it an even tinier minority. So sometimes I get to feeling like why even bother going, but again it sometimes pays off if you go out enough.
Anyway, not the most exciting blog post here but it is tough starting again in another city, although I do have some history here. Actually most of the potential models and photographers I’ve been talking to have not really been that big in the BDSM scene, but are generally more just people who are familiar with my site and write me. Or people from Fetlife, who know me there and see that I’m now in Denver.
Hopefully I’ll have more exciting news as time goes on. In the meantime the picture taking continues on :-)
We’ll be happy with any pictures with the gorgeous you in them Sandra, as well as your sexy crossdressing friends. You’ll always be a 10+ in my book, the best looking model in the 21st century anyway.
Aw, thanks, PF! You’re always way too kind and generous! I’ll keep shooting as long as it’s in me, whether in front of or behind the camera. I actually did another nice shoot just yesterday with another new girl that I should be posting in another week or so…Hugs, Sandra :-)
Yeah combine a crushing shyness with the lousy numbers game and you do have to kick yourself in the ass to get out there. I spend way too much time just hoping the perfect bondage lover will just fall into my email. Right now I’m trying to convince myself to get dressed and attend some of the many gay pride things just blocks from my condo. There should be plenty of mostly submissive drag queens and tgirls who I should meet and casually mention my web site. Will I do it? Oh ok i’ll try.
I do think that munches vary depending on where you are. When I came out in the scene I was going to munches in New Orleans and Baton Rouge, and the people there were really welcoming. The munches in Dallas seem more cliquish-if you don’t already know people it’s hard to actually meet someone. Not to mention the “munches” which are held at the local “dungeon” which have a fee to attend.
Why people don’t want to try different kinds of things escapes me. And yes, being a crossdresser can be an issue for some people. But the people who don’t care are the ones who find out that we can be a lot of fun :)